It took me 17 years and three daughters later to figure out my story and I had to figure out how to get out of this toxic relationship without affecting my children.
My story is a lifetime movie, it would take a book for you to understand. I lived in weakness and I gave up the true warrior in exchange for approval and love for the illusion of safety.
I was a young girl at the age of 20, that married her 13 years older boss. I was coming from a place of fear rather than a place of love, a place of control and manipulation rather than a place of compassion and understanding.
I began to soul search and I asked myself these questions, “What voice am I listening to?” Am I listening to the voice of FEAR, POWERLESSNESS, INSECURITY?
I began to ask the right questions and I began to receive the voice of ACCEPTANCE, THE VOICE OF POWER, THE VOICE OF COURAGE, THE VOICE OF STRENGTH, THE VOICE OF FORGIVENESS.
I began to realize I had a choice and the power to choose what voice I was going to listen to.
It began one morning after a lot of prayers. My life had to change and I could no longer live this way. It wasn’t only about me but it was also about the safety of my three girls.
My focus shifted and my actions were unshakable choices.
My desires and passion for life began to awaken.
A radiant crown of courage awakened and I decided to take action to build a life of love, courage, and confidence that I deeply deserved.
I could not change this man. And I shouldn’t spend the rest of my life trying to help someone that refused any help for themselves.
I began to become responsible for changing myself. It was my only weapon against abuse!
As a result, for the past 22 years, I became a professional Family Counselor. A certified Temperament/Personality Analyst,
A Certified Divorce Coach and a Collaborative Professional.
A Collaborative Professional empowers you to resolve your legal disputes without judges or court.
I offer you a safe environment to reduce conflict and minimize its impact on you, your children, your family, and your life.
And a Temperament Analyst understands why you think the way you do, act the way do, and know the way you love and need to be loved. It’s a blueprint of who you are. It is the greatest tool ever to understand, who you are.
The best way to claim your life back is by turning your adversity into an advantage.
The restoration of my spirit and the decision to divorce became my passion to help others going through a divorce.
I strongly believe that every child deserves the highest level of quality of childhood life.
Divorce does not have to destroy our children and as their parents, there is something we can do about it!